Wives and their gripes

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I am having a problem. I grew up doing a little hunting with my dad, just for small game birds. Since my good friend went deer hunting this last fall and bagged one, i have been getting the hunting bug again. Thats when i came across this pig information. "This is great, no season, no limit, and i love bacon!!!".

Well.......my wife of 5 years now has had some reservations about me hunting, but nothing so extreme as she informed me last night. You see, my first pig hunt is saturday with four of my close friends and an experienced pig hunter. All of a sudden my wife is against me going. And why is this.............she does not like eating pork.

Yeah, i just don't get it. It's nothing to do with guns or killing something or even leaving her at home with the kids for the day, she just does not like pork.

Please tell me there arte some other guys out there with some type of similar problems and can give me some type of advice so i can ease her worries. i mean, its not like i am forcing her to cook, eat, or even see the meat. she just does not like pork (have i mentioned she doesn't like pork?!?!).

Thanks for any advice or input i can get from all you out there.

Frosty

ps. sorry this is short and blunt but its time to go home and i don't want to wait in a long line at the florist

 

[Common Sense]

Wives don't always tell the truth; my guess it has more to do with hunting than pork.

 

[Wild1]

CommonSense might be on to something. I'm far from being a "Dr. Phil" but it seems there may be some other reason and "I don't like pork" is an easy, if strange, excuse. I'm guessing you let her go shopping with her friends even though you don't enjoy wearing a dress or putting on make-up. Time for a heart to heart - just my

Good luck.

 

[1BowHunter]

I have the same problem! But she still allows to go hunting as with my first wife of 26 years may she rest in peace. I told them both I love hunting as much as I love you. So don't make me choose between you and hunting. they let me do it .
They know I love Hunting very much and quess if they see the way I go for hunting , then they can say I loved them very much as well.

 

[Coues]

Who says she has to eat it?

 

[Gyopo]

If she said you can go, you better go, otherwise your freedom can get real complicated in the future.
I think she is getting worried about you going away for the weekend.
The time is here, and I think she really didn't realize that the hunt would happen.
You have made plans w/buudies, and the may have budgeted you going into their plans.
W/out you, someone else might have problems w/going.
I have been there. Actually, I'm still there.
It gets scary at home w/child. Maybe she can have friends over?

If she has issues w/pork (religious/cultural), you could, maybe, give the meat to a buddy and go over to their place to BBQ or get a seperate freezer for the game meat and cook it seperately.

I do have a close buddy that is P-whipped beyond belief and he does give in.
We love to give him a hard time when he leaves at 10am Sunday to be home w/his wife,apologetic for going away. He gets lots of flak from us!!!

Whatever you do, be reasonable and explain things clearly, lest you turn her into a peta-type.

Good luck.

 

[BDB]

Originally posted by Gyopo@Feb 14 2006, 04:32 PM
I do have a close buddy that is P-whipped beyond belief and he does give in. We love to give him a hard time when he leaves at 10am Sunday to be home w/his wife,apologetic for going away. He gets lots of flak from us!!!

Did AS get secretly married ??

I agree with Gyopo that she is becoming hesitant as the day draws near and is a reality now. Maybe she just doesn't want you to really get into it and be gone all the time. Maybe she does have a problem the hunting part. And maybe she just doesn't like pork.

Either way I would sit her down and get to the bottom of it or it will most likely cause issues in the future. She'll say go but if she really has a problem with it, it'll come back to haunt ya! At least that's my

though I doubt it's worth that much.

 

[duckwidow]

My husband hunts a lot and I rarely eat any game....

So I guess it is what Common sense said...

The part about something else being wrong...not the part about wifes dont always tell the truth...

 

[Bevyhunter]

my wife complains when I'm home or when I'm gone hunting. face it you can't win.

 

[pbrdog]

Explain to her that it's a guy thing. Guys need to get together and have some comradare. Heck, we don't get game everytime we go pig hunting, but we sure have a good time camping and just being guys.

 

[doccherry]

I can't speak for anyone but myself. The outdoors, hunting and fishing and hiking and all the rest, are so much a part of who I am that I can't conceive of living without it. My advice, and it isn't even worth 2 cents, is to go hunting and let the chips fall where they may. I know a lot of guys who have given up everything that makes them what they are in an effort to please a woman. If my wife told me that she would no longer permit me go hunting, I'd tell her adios. Of course, I never would have married a woman who would something like that. I have never, ever told her that I didn't want her to pursue her passions, such as horseback riding. That's what gives her life meaning, and although I may not care for it or not see the logic in it, that's who she is. More power to her.

I agree with some of the other posts. There's more to this deal than meets the eye. I'd guess it's either that she [or one of her influential girlfriends] doesn't approve of hunting or she's making a move to curtail your independence.

I have probably offended you and I have definitely offended her, but life ain't a dress rehersal. You get one chance to do what is important to you, to do what gives your life meaning, and that's it. I hope to see you and the other guys and gals on this thread around a campfire someday, eating pork tenderloins and talking of hunts past and hunts future.

Good luck.

 

[roger1shot]

Well
You asked so here's my 2cents.
26 Years ago I told my wife to be, that I love to hunt and fish. And that I was going to hunt and fish any time I wanted to. And if she could live with that, then we
would get along just fine.

She grew up in a non hunting family, but she didnt' have a problem cooking and eatting the deer meat.I shot some hogs down on the coast. Man they did have a bad smell and didn't taste to good.Maybe some of her friends told her some bad stories about hog meat.
But the other hogs that I shot were real good and she ate the meat.
So maybe there's hope for her.
But I would still go hunting,you can't back down.
If you back down now,what's next?
You can't watch football or baseball because she want's you to watch a lifetime show with her?
GO HUNTING'''

 

[Common Sense]

Originally posted by Bevyhunter@Feb 14 2006, 06:53 PM
my wife complains when I'm home or when I'm gone hunting. face it you can't win.

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It would be even funnier if it wasn't so true!

 

[larrysogla]

I always have the last word in my house.





























yesss dearrrrr.
'Nuff said.

 

[easymoney]

IMHO, and I'm no Dr Phil, but you strike a happy medium.
My wife won't touch waterfowl, but will eat wild pork, and loves chukar. She always happily sends me off on my hunts with, "Have fun, but hope you don't get anything"... It's a "love the animals" thing.
I always do that projects for her that build up brownie points for me and small romantic things for her (without being asked), especially on valentines, our anniversary or her birthday. It goes a long ways to making my hunts materialize...

 

[MikenSoCo]

A man marries a woman hoping she'll never change... A woman marries a man hoping to change him.

I might also add they change ALOT when the chillen come along. Each kid makes it tougher. With that said, GO HUNT

 

[Metdawg44]

I have a friend who is on his third marriage. The first two had issues with him hunting waterfowl every Wed, Sat, and Sunday and the marriages failed. The third wife told him before they got married that you can hunt all season long....but when the season's over you're mine. He said fine and they got married. Slowly she started putting a chain around his neck, first to go was the Sunday hunts, then no weekend hunts.....he finially reduced his hunting to 10 days in Canada and that was it for the whole year......and then he stopped hunting.

I myself had a first wife who would tell me to go hunt and have a great time but when I got back she made my life hell cause she haad to watch the two kids over the weekend. I probably hunted 10-12 days a YEAR. well, that marriage ended badly but my second wife has no problem with me going hunting. In fact she has gone on a couple of Turkey and hog hunts. She won't go duck hunting cause she doesn't like the cold.

My suggestion is that life is too short. Do what you want to do but I would sit down with her first and have a heart to heart.

 

[Surfswest]

Okay, here's some more info about the wife and I. I can now see what some of the problem may be after some more discussion last night. She was raised in a very anti-gun family, in fact, her parents don't even own guns to this day. Two of her friends in high school were killed in gun accidents. She has very strong feelings toward guns and gun safety.

She knows that I have grown up around guns my whole life and that I own a couple, which have been stored out at my parents house. Our agreement when we married was that I will bring no guns into the house until they are stored in a locked safe and out of sight. This I can understand and agree with. Any ammunition has to be locked up in a seperate safe away from the guns. This I can also understand and comply with.

She knew before we got married that this day would come when I wanted to start hunting again and could afford it. Now that this day is here I don't think she likes it. Our son wil be 3 next month and we also have another 3 month old son. She seems a little hesitant to want to bring up our sons in a house where hunting is the norm. It has nothing to do with killing animals ( her sister is a vegetarian because of that cruelty to animal thing), thankfully this thinking doesn't affect my wife's feelings.

I am definately going on this hunt, and maybe after a couple of hunts this year her attitude may slacken a bit and realize how this sport can be done safely.

Thanks for the advice and hope to have a couple of pig pics this saturday.

Frosty

 

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