Wives and their gripes

[Metdawg44]

Whipped Magazine.......you're killing me

 

[Common Sense]

Originally posted by Metdawg44@Feb 15 2006, 11:22 AM
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Hey they have some interesting articles in there. For example: Dawn is not the best dish-washing soap, you should separate whites from colored when doing the laundry, and of course everything your wife says is true.

Seriously; I understand your wife's concern. She loves you and your boys and doesn't want anything bad to happen; THAT IS A GOOD THING. Don't expect her to change overnight, but she may someday be more tolerant. In the mean time; respect her views(but still go hunting). My wife had never had a gun in her house; and was very much anti-gun. I didn't hunt much after we got married until my kids were old enough to go; and she hated it. Now she has a much better understanding of my feelings and even suggested we get a shotgun as a Christmas present for our ten-year old grandson.

She still gripes if I "go out hunting" with the boys. But she encourages me to go with my son or grandson(she calls it bonding).

She won't shoot a deer rifle or shotgun, but swears one of my old pump .22's was given to her by my grandfather --- and she is the only one who has shot it in the last 30 years. Now she doesn't mind guns in the house, she wants them! If we go out of town for a day or two, she will asked if I remembered to bring my gun.

 

[ironworker]

I make sure to tell the wife at least two months in advance prior to leaving for the weekend. This way she has time to make plans to do something special for herself while I am gone. I never make money an issue on things she may want to do while I am gone as a matter of fact I encourage a little self indulgence.

If she doesn't like pig then it sounds like you will get all the good meat for yourself, as far as her not wanting you to go well....... your gonna have to sack up, be a man (not saying your not a man)and just over look that stuff and enjoy yourself.

No matter how mad she may be when you leave it will all blow over a couple days after you get back, if it doesn't then you may want to sell your rifle and get an attorney.

Good Luck.

Rich

 

[Zbearclaw]

my wife had the same bi-polar incident before I went bear hunting two years ago in D-8. I arranged everything before I left for the middle east, with hopes I would return by opening weekend. I got back amonth before I was set to leave, and everything was good to go, then the week or so before she decided that she didn't think bow hunting bears was safe, and blah blah blah, I went, she was pissed a few days, but got over it.

The more you go, the less issues there are, within reason. I have a two year old and a three month old and I am going to the March POR no problems.

Good luck, it is hard to set the precedent after you have been married a little while, preferably you would have been afield thirty weekends a year while dating, then the understand is there.

 

[Zbearclaw]

an additional point is, and this is from limited experience with only my wife, and buddies and such, is that a lot of times the wives think this is just another hobby that won't stick, and that it is just an inconvenience, it takes time for it to be realized that this is something that is important. In the future talk about the hunt more, and try and get her to plan stuff for herself as well, I have a three month old that is breast feeding so she can't get away for a weekend, but we try and come up with stuff I can od, which usually means cleaning the house and such, but that makes her happy, and i get a better response when I mention the next trip to her, since she can atleast look forward to a house boy for a few days.

 

[drewjunr]

The true test of a marriage...go hunting on your 14th wedding anniversary, gone for a whole week...and come back empty handed. Been there done that...and she will let me do it again...and yes we get along with each other.

Let her have some girl time with her friends without the kids...that always resolves problems. Don't forget to surprise her with flowers that are not associated with special days, tell her you love her once in a while not just when your walking out the door for the hunt.

Offer to take her hunting or shooting, get her involved.

If none of that works...return her for refund.

 

[BobcatJess]

Drewjunr, you couldn't have put it any better. That seems to be the recipe in my household, and it seems to work out pretty good.

Good Luck Surfswest. Hang in there.

Jess.

 

[Orso]

My wife doesn't eat pork anymore. She used to, but has had a change of heart...Shes seen to many of my picks with the nasty crap hogs eat.

Just becuase she doesn't eat pork doesn't mean I can't. And when in the mood my kids love the stuff.

If there's a bowl of pasta in the fridge doesn't mean she has to eat it. So why should everyone stop eating pasta just because she doesn't like it.

Sad excuse of an argument on her part.

You could always send her packing. LOL... Just kidding.

 

[Franklin3]

Make her so miserable when your around that she'll beg you to go hunt ir fish or anything.
Course I'm only joking!
that advise works only if your intent is to get divorced.
Now if you want to satay married then.
You got something else goin on and my guess is your not seeing it clearly.
She may not want you to. Or you may not want to yourself.
Pay attention the signs are always there.
I'm logging into year 33 this coming august and I'd be lying if I told you it was easy.

The shortest sentence in the english language is I am.
The longest one is I do.

 

[larrysogla]

I am 30 yrs. married now to the same girlfriend. Many times she dissuades me from going hunting and I always go hunting anyway. I know that she is only trying to protect me because of the inherent dangers that she imagines in the hunting activity. It has never caused any problelms in our marriage where we have to debate or argue or quarrel about it. She only tries to dissuade me in one or two sentences and then she doesn't talk about it anymore until the next time I go hunting again and then in only one or two sentences, thank goodness. That is just us and I am certainly blessed for having a non-arguing non-hunter as a spouse. 'Nuff said.

 

[Marty]

So, what you are saying is that she doesn't respect you, and is not willing to understand your choices.

IMO, interjecting family "issues" is a copout. My wife doesn't care for hunting either. However, she doesn't say the boys and I cannot go out. She says she doesn't like game either. But she'll eat it if I don't tell her what it is (tastes like chicken). My mother abhored guns, but she never stopped me from going to shooting matches at the Armory when I was in high school.

 

[Surfswest]

Well, the weekend has come and gone and the hunt is over. Ill post the story and the wife's reaction in a new post, so it should be up shortly.

Frosty